Cold approaches are out because a) people will respond poorly to negative people and b) you won't make them anywaySo right there, by having a shitty attitude, you've functionally cut yourself off from 99% of the ways of meeting new potential partners. Warm approaches are out because you have fewer friends who can connect you to their social networks.
Worse, pessimists deal with greater levels of stress and anxiety. It takes longer to bounce back from failures and mistakes, meaning that their performance takes an even bigger hit over time. That stress and anxiety also has a negative connotation with relationships- the higher your levels of stress and anxiety, the shorter and more contentious your relationships are. This is one of the reasons why lawyers have among the highest levels of divorce among other professional careers... and law is one of the few careers where being a pessimist actually means you perform better.
Optimists Are Right, Too
Now let's contrast this with optimists. Optimists, on the whole, are happier and healthier. Just as pessimism is a signifier of poor performance – socially, athletically and professionally – optimism coincides with greater overall success. In fact, MetLife found that optimists sold 19% more policies than their pessimistic counterparts in one year; by the second year they found that the optimists outperformed the pessimists by 57% (. ). Their secret is almost pathetically simple: They believe that life, on the whole, is good and that they personally will succeed at what they set their minds to.
Now to many people, this sounds less like optimism and more mi hipervГnculo like out-and-out delusion. After all, studies have shown that pessimists tend to have more realistic assessments of their own abilities. A continually positive outlook seems downright insane.
Except it's not about a Panglossian belief that this is the best of all possible worlds. O they have two key factors working in their favor.
The first key is that that optimists have greater emotional resiliency than pessimists and do better when faced with difficult, even adverse situations.
